Darling Lovely Life » how to http://darlinglovelylife.com Creative living in a pastel colour palette Thu, 08 Jan 2015 12:31:07 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.5 Darling lovely gold glittery Halloween pumpkin tutorial! /2014/10/darling-lovely-gold-glittery-halloween-pumpkin-tutorial/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=darling-lovely-gold-glittery-halloween-pumpkin-tutorial /2014/10/darling-lovely-gold-glittery-halloween-pumpkin-tutorial/#comments Fri, 31 Oct 2014 09:43:27 +0000 /?p=5629

Happy Halloween 2014, spooktacular Darling Lovely readers! To celebrate the holiday of dressing up (fabulous) and eating delicious things (even more fabulous) we’ve created this mini tutorial for you all to enjoy. I also thought these would make adorable autumn wedding centrepieces for weddings and parties! Neat.

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It’s so easy you don’t even need step-by-step pictures. Just a lot of enthusiasm and the following things:

You will need

♥ Small pumpkins, assorted sizes
♥ Metallic gold spray paint
♥ Clear-drying glue
♥ Loose gold glitter
♥ A paintbrush

Step one

Cover your work area with newspaper, put the pumpkin upside down and spray it gold. Make sure to stand well away so that you don’t get drips when you spray.

Step two

Wait twenty minutes, turn the pumpkin the right way up and spray again, covering all areas you missed.

Step three

Wait twenty minutes again and then paint on glue from the stalk outwards in downwards strokes.

Step four

Sprinkle gold glitter on to the glue and wait for it to dry.

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Don’t they look gorgeous? If you try this one out, please post your photos on Facebook and let us have a look!

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How to adjust to being self employed /2014/10/how-to-adjust-to-being-self-employed/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-adjust-to-being-self-employed /2014/10/how-to-adjust-to-being-self-employed/#comments Fri, 24 Oct 2014 08:38:18 +0000 /?p=5554

Self employment is an absolute dream for most creatives. To earn a living from what you love to do, to be in charge of your own destiny and not to have to run every decision by somebody else – absolute bliss!

It’s also pretty terrifying – chances are you’ve worked really hard to get your business or service to a place where you can make it your full-time “thing” and most people find that once they’ve served out their day job notice period, a little bit of panic sets in. What if I don’t make any money? What if I can’t motivate myself to work? What if I’ve made a mistake? What if, what if, what if…?

Being self employed is a blessing – but it’s also a major lifestyle adjustment. Follow these simple steps to making the best out of your venture, without allowing the fear to paralyse you. I realise this is a very loooong post – but I hope it’s valuable to those of you stepping into the world of being your own boss for the first time.

Graze, nature gaze, do whatever you have to do to relax

Take some time off

Woah, woah – what?? Time off?? I know what you’re thinking – you worked so hard to become self employed and you’re going to start off by slacking?

It may not feel like it, but time off to relax and readjust is absolutely crucial and here’s why:

1) When you quit your job, there’s going to be a panic about making money as quickly as possible. Let me tell you, from experience, that’s a really unhealthy energy to put into your venture. You don’t ever want to be doing business from a place of desperation or anxiety. Give yourself a few days to relax and then come at your strategy with a clear and calm head.

2) You probably still have a lot of residual stress and hangups from your day job. Everyone thinks that the moment you walk out the door you’ll have this euphoric feeling, but the reality that you don’t have to go back takes a while to sink in. Take a few days to de-stress, get rid of any worries from your old work and really realise that you’ve closed the door on that chapter of your life.

Take a few days, even a few weeks, away from your desk before you start your new self employment journey – go on holiday if you can afford it, even if it’s just a cheapo trip and really separate out the two realities.

Create a beautiful work space

No more boring office desks, no more cheesy motivational posters – this little office space is all yours. Chances are that if you’re a creative person, you like to decorate everything you touch – so make your working space really you. It has to be somewhere you’re happy to sit day after day, so optimise it for comfort and style (don’t forget to assess the ergonomics as well – your back will thank you).

Get in the right mindset

Self employed doesn’t mean “available all the time”. I mean this in two ways – it doesn’t mean that you’re available all hours of the night for your clients and it doesn’t mean you’re available every second of the day for your friends. A lot of people will make assumptions that self employed = not doing anything important. Because your schedule will be more flexible, they will expect you to be able to take on things, or meet up with them at times that don’t suit you.

There’s alos a danger that, once you get into the flow of working for yourself, you’ll find it hard to separate the professional from the personal. Here are a few things you can do to help:

♥ Set, and stick to, working hours. They don’t have to be the normal working hours that other people might be used to, but make it clear that you only work and will only accept business calls during those hours. Equally, make it clear to your friends and family that you can’t chat to them during your business day.

♥ If you can afford it, have two phone lines – one for work and one for your friends. There are actually some really cheap and easy ways for you to do this, and I’m going to do a post on that at a later date. Make sure only one phone is switched on at any one time. If you really want to push the boat out, try to have two computers or devices to work from so that you don’t end up working when you’re trying to relax.

♥ Have a “work ref” – someone you love and trust, like a best friend or significant other, to make you pull the plug. It’s very easy to end up working into the small hours without realising that you haven’t stopped.

Establish a routine and rewards system

Met your deadline? Reward yourself with a nice walk. Finished that project? Watch an episode of your favourite show. A rewards system is a great way to motivate yourself when you’re having an off day, and it also breaks up the day so you’re not glued to your computer the whole time.

A routine is really important too – whether you exercise first thing or have a special cup of coffee in the morning, know how to start your day in style. Three square meals a day will also help you to stay focused and stop you from snacking out of boredom.

Have a support network

To be fair, most people who choose to work for themselves are quite introverted – but it can be quite jarring to go from being surrounded by people all the time to being on your own all day long. Social media is a great way to find and meet likeminded self employed types in your industry. Facebook groups and Twitter chats can be really beneficial and can lead to real-life friendships and regular meetups, so try to keep up your professional connections as well as your personal ones.

Get some comfy clothes

I refuse to subscribe to the belief that you have to dress a certain way to feel up for working. The whole point of working for yourself is that you get to make the rules, so forget arbitrary dress codes and umcomfortable work clothes – get yourself a nice wardrobe of PJs and lounging clothes instead. You’ll feel so much more comfortable and it’s much easier to get stuff done when you’re not distracted by itchy tights or restrictive dresses. Go on – take the leap!

Are you planning to become self employed? Or have you recently become your own boss? We’d love to hear your working from home stories in the comment box!

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Why you should never, ever ignore your gut /2014/10/why-you-should-never-ever-ignore-your-gut/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=why-you-should-never-ever-ignore-your-gut /2014/10/why-you-should-never-ever-ignore-your-gut/#comments Tue, 21 Oct 2014 08:08:00 +0000 /?p=5548

Your gut doesn’t have an agenda. It’s not political, it’s not jealous, it’s not petty. Your gut is not attached to any particular outcome. Your gut doesn’t care what other people think.

That’s why it’s your most reliable and honest friend, the only thing you should turn to for advice and the one thing you should never ignore.

Your gut is the purest, most concentrated form of your own personal intuition and it always tells you if something is a good or a bad idea. It will tell you that whether you want to hear it or not, even if your head or your heart (or both) aren’t in agreement.

Sometimes your gut will tell you something that doesn’t make any sense at all. Don’t take that lucrative job offer. Don’t jump at that seemingly amazing opportunity. Don’t go on a second date with the guy who’s perfect on paper. It’s trying to save you time and heartache – don’t ignore it.

Sometimes your gut will tell you to go for something that seems utterly crazy. Quit your job and follow your dream – you’re going to make it. Marry that man, trust me, you’re ready. Jump on a plane and see where it takes you – somewhere good, I promise. It’s trying to push you to be amazing – don’t ignore it.

Your gut won’t steer you wrong. It will take you to exactly where you need to be, even if it’s not where you expected or hoped. If you have a decision to make, don’t call every friend and family member under the sun – don’t solicit advice on Facebook or consult with every expert you can think of. There’s only one thing you need to listen to – and it’s already a part of you. Don’t ignore it.

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Twelve little home treasures – doorknobs /2014/09/little-home-treasures-knobs/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=little-home-treasures-knobs /2014/09/little-home-treasures-knobs/#comments Thu, 18 Sep 2014 08:18:11 +0000 /?p=5445

Lots of people have been asking me where I find a lot of the pretty little home fittings and accessories that I feature on the blog. That gave me the inspiration for a brand new regular feature – every week, I’ll be picking out ten little home treasures to showcase! From doorknobs to vases, curtains to carpets, I’ll bring you the best pastel pretty details from around the web.

Twelve adorable door and drawer knobs

They’re tiny and functional, and yes, the minutest of detail – but darling little details make us very happy here at Darling Lovely Life HQ! As you can see, we make sure no detail is left unturned, including our door and drawer knobs (these ones were from eBay). So, if you’re looking to liven up your living room, kitch up your kitchen or bring some life to an otherwise ordinary piece of furniture, then have a browse of our ten favourite door and drawer knobs! The best bit? They’re all under £5 each.

1. £4.25 from Pushka Knobs on notonthehighstreet.com 2. £3.95 from dotcomgiftshop 3. £4.00 by TrincaFerro on Etsy 4. £4.45 at Sass and Belle 5. £5.00 from TrincaFerro on Etsy 6. £3.95 from French Grey Interiors on notonthehighstreet.com 7. £3.95 at dotcomgiftshop 8. £3.00 from PolkaDotofWinslow on Etsy 9. £4.00 from Pushka Knobs on Etsy 10. £3.95 from dotcomgiftshop 11. £5.00 from Witchcorner on Etsy 12. £3.95 from dotcomgiftshop

Darling Lovely Life is an Etsy affiliate blog

So those are our top pics. Do you have a little home product you’d love us to feature? Do you have a favourite door or drawer knob? Leave your thoughts in the comment box!

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Creatives: how to overcome social awkwardness /2014/09/creatives-how-to-overcome-social-awkwardness/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=creatives-how-to-overcome-social-awkwardness /2014/09/creatives-how-to-overcome-social-awkwardness/#comments Thu, 04 Sep 2014 07:56:00 +0000 /?p=5376

I may be generalising here, and this certainly doesn’t apply to everyone. However, has anyone else noticed that many creative people tend towards social awkwardness?

Honestly, I believe this is no coincidence. For a start, we creative types just don’t think the same as everybody else. I remember a bemused classmate telling me, while I was spouting one of my particularly weird literary theories in English class, “you don’t just think outside the box, you think outside the room that the box is in.”

This inherent feeling of not belonging can be a fantastic thing. If creative people thought in  a “mainstream” kinda way, they wouldn’t be able to come up with the wonderful, interesting and often incredible things that other people enjoy so much. But when it comes to socialising, it can be a bit of a burden. I’m sure most creative, socially uncomfortable people have felt, at one time or another, that they would really love to just fit in for once! So if you’re someone who starts to squirm in social situations, here is a little guide to getting on in “the real world” (whatever that is).

Just because you shine creatively doesn’t mean you want to be the life and soul…

Find your people

No, that doesn’t mean that you only need to hang around with other creative types (although I would strongly advise hanging out with other creatives anyway – it’s good for the soul). It means you need to hang out with people who accept you for who you are and love you for being different.

This may take time socially and even longer professionally. It may be particularly hard if you’re not self employed, but it comes with time and experience. For example, don’t apply for jobs with a very corporate culture, look out for how people behave at interview stage and consider whether or not your amazing creative talents will be appreciated in your workplace.

Give yourself loads and loads of space

Creative types need time to themselves. Time to be creative, time to blow off steam and time to unwind from the social pressures of the day. Only then can you be on top form.

Time to yourself actually helps you to become more comfortable with your own company, which in turn makes you more at peace with who you are as a person. This can only help you in social situations!

Solitude is sacred

Don’t overcompensate

If you’re shy, be shy. I know how it feels to want to show people how odd you are right away (just get it over with already) or to feel really weird about long silences or non-responsive conversational partners. You don’t need to fill the silences – if other people don’t bother, you don’t have to either. There’s nothing worse than being put on the social back foot and rambling on because you feel uncomfortable with it.

Think of it as an exercise in creativity

Bring a camera, a notebook or a sketchbook if you feel nervous. These social crutches have really helped me when I’ve felt anxious in the past. If you’re a writer, jot down things or conversations you might want to use in a story one day. If you’re an artist, sketch people (it’s a pretty cool ice breaker, just be generous with your interpretations!). Be who you are in the social setting and be OK with it.

Find interesting, creative moments while you’re out and about

Don’t over-analyse things

Don’t torture yourself after every meet up, party or social occasion by thinking over everything you said to everyone. Creative people tend to be hyper aware of other people’s reactions to them, and that can really induce social anxiety. Go home, watch some TV or read a book and don’t spare the day another thought.

Baby steps

Don’t force yourself to be a social animal if that’s not who you are. Socialise on your own terms and when you feel up to it. I spend a lot of time at home and I enjoy life better that way. That means that when I do go out, I really mean it and have a much better time!

Be yourself

Don’t try to blend in – because you’ve been given the gift of being incredibly special, and people who are worth it will see that.

Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you think it’s linked to creativity? I’d love to read your thoughts! Leave us a comment below. 

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How to surround yourself with the right people /2014/09/how-to-surround-yourself-with-the-right-people/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-surround-yourself-with-the-right-people /2014/09/how-to-surround-yourself-with-the-right-people/#comments Tue, 02 Sep 2014 08:11:00 +0000 /?p=5368

These last couple of months have been quite difficult. There has been a long illness and sad passing in my family. However, one thing that has been reaffirmed a million times over is the importance of having the right people around you – not just at a difficult time (although it really helps) but all the time.

Having the right people around you will guarantee you a much happier, easier and less stressful life – so how do you find your people? And how do you know when a relationship is no longer good for you?

Surround yourself with people you love and who love you

No more frenemies. No more friends you suspect secretly want you to fail and no more friends you’d happily see fall flat on their face. These kinds of toxic relationships do nothing for your happiness. The first step to surrounding yourself with amazing people is to stop making time for people who don’t deserve your time. Stop letting these dynamics become your norm and make room for something much better in your life.

Good people build each other up

In my experience, people have enough trouble getting rid of negative voices in their heads without having negative voices in their ear too. Friends who criticise, ridicule or make you feel bad aren’t real friends. There’s a difference between honesty because you care and cruelty because you’re bitter. Good friends will encourage you when you doubt yourself – they’ll tell you you’re wonderful when you don’t believe it yourself. True friends accept you the way you are and love you anyway!

Real friends are there for the bad times

When the going gets really tough, true friends don’t disappear – they pick up the phone. If you have a friend who runs for the hills every time something awful happens in your life, then they may not be the best person to have around you.

Good friendships are reciprocal

Your friends aren’t your supporting cast, they’re your friends. That means that you’re there for them as much as they’re there for you and vice versa. If you have a friend who’s always dumping their problems on you without a care for how you’re doing then it may be time to ditch.

You just come away feeling good

Whenever I talk to one of my good friends, I come away feeling happy and positive – no matter what the content of the conversation was. When someone is on your wavelength, is supportive, cares as much about you as you do about them and doesn’t try to tear you down, you will always come away from an interaction with them feeling wonderful. And that’s the way it should be!

Are you surrounded by awesome people? Have you started to cut out people who make you feel bad about yourself? Thoughts are always welcome in the comment box!

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How to dress for the office (and look fabulous) /2014/08/how-to-dress-for-the-office-and-look-fabulous/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-dress-for-the-office-and-look-fabulous /2014/08/how-to-dress-for-the-office-and-look-fabulous/#comments Fri, 22 Aug 2014 14:13:50 +0000 /?p=5242

Just because you work in an office doesn’t mean you can’t live a creative life. My lovely friend Kasia is a prime example of how you can look smart and groomed without looking stuffy and boring. I’ve worked with Kasia before and was always in awe of how well turned out she looked every day, while still injecting a lot of her personality and sense of style into the equation. So she kindly agreed to come over and give me a little insight into how she puts her office chic wardrobe together. Here are some of her top tips.

Denim shirt, £24.99 from TK Maxx, necklace £7.99 from H&M, black elasticated pencil skirt, £9 from Footlocker

Look for bargains in unlikely places

“I always find that if I go shopping to look for something specific, I come home empty handed,” says Kasia. “The trick is to keep your eyes peeled everywhere you go and to have a little imagination. For example, I went into Footlocker looking for some workout clothes and came out with a black pencil skirt for just £9. It’s timeless and a really great little office wardrobe staple, as it goes with almost anything.”

Look for items that could be dressed up or dressed down

“This denim shirt is great for a smart-casual office dress code, but I also wear it outside of the office with a more casual ensemble,” Kasia explains. “If your office isn’t too corporate, then go for clothes that double up for your everyday life.”

Blue dress, £9 in the Debenhams sale, necklace was a gift from a friend (from Zara) and shoes were bought in Kasia’s home town in Poland for around £10.

Dressing well doesn’t have to be expensive

“I already mentioned always being on the alert for bargains,” says Kasia, “but I always check out the sales to find something amazing for less. Don’t be fooled into thinking all the best clothes are gone, you may well find an unexpected gem.”

Don’t be afraid to be bright and bold

“My blue dress isn’t anything special,” says Kasia, “but the colour makes everything pop. Everyone notices the dress because it’s bright and bold – it instantly injects some personality and unique style into your outfit.”

Let your accessories do the talking

Kasia feels that less is more when it comes to complex outfits. “You need to be comfortable at work,” she says, “I always try to keep my outfits simple and accessorise them with bold statement necklaces and jewellery.”

Floral shirt, TK Maxx £14.99. Black jeans from Next, around £20.

Don’t be a slave to trends

“It’s fun to incorporate trends into your usual style,” Kasia explains, “but not at the expense of what suits you and works well with your wardrobe. For example, following the air tie trend of buttoning your shirts to the top also looks smarter for work and suits the outfits I’ve put together, but I would avoid anything that detracts from your own sense of style.”

Know your body shape

Kasia thinks that getting to know your body shape is a process. “In my younger years I worked in a few clothes shops, and so I’ve been around fashion for a long time. One thing I’ve learned is to know, at a glance, what will suit my body shape and what will be unflattering. This is a process of trial and error for most people, as no two body shapes are the same, and we change as we get older. Don’t be afraid to try things on and rule out certain types of clothes on the basis that they won’t suit you. For example, three quarter-length trousers tend to make my legs look shorter, so I avoid them.”

Take good care of your clothes

One question I had for Kasia was how she looks quite so groomed every morning. “I take pretty good care of my clothes. I always wash things according to the instructions, hand wash things that need to be hand washed, and I iron and steam my clothes when necessary so that everything looks neat and work ready.”

So I’ve definitely learned a thing or two from Kasia! Do you have any top tips for dressing creatively for an office job? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment box!

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How to cope when the world overwhelms you /2014/08/how-to-cope-when-the-world-overwhelms-you/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-cope-when-the-world-overwhelms-you /2014/08/how-to-cope-when-the-world-overwhelms-you/#comments Thu, 14 Aug 2014 08:40:53 +0000 /?p=5202

Wars, misery and worldwide woe – add these global issues together with your everyday problems and suddenly life can feel a little overwhelming. I’m not a mental health professional, and if you think you can’t cope I strongly advise that you seek help and advice from somebody qualified – but if you’re just feeling a little bit like the walls of the world are closing in on you, then here are some tips that will help you start to feel like you again.

When you can’t see the wood for the trees…

Switch off the news

Doom, gloom and suffering – just what you need when you’re already feeling overwhelmed. I’m not saying you shouldn’t care about global affairs, of course you should, nor that you should live in a bubble. However, being constantly sad about things happening at home or overseas that you can’t change won’t help humanity. Moreover, in the age of social media, we’re bombarded with sad stories 24/7 – people share and share and share again, and we can end up fixating: it’s not healthy.

If you’re starting to feel like you can’t cope with one more thing going wrong, then turn off the news. Turn it off for a day, a week, however long you need to start recovering some positivity.

Switch off social media

I just touched on how the news and social media are intrinsically linked – it’s hard to turn off the news completely when you’re bombarded with it the minute you turn on Facebook or Twitter. It’s more than that, though – it’s also people’s various moans and whines, it’s people’s issues and qualms, it can also be people wanting things from you that you don’t have the energy to give.

It doesn’t help when you’re feeling like you can’t cope with one more email or one more thing to have to organise or think about. Just put up a status akin to “be back later” and just turn it off for a while.

In fact, take some time out from your tech entirely

A quick glance at my phone reveals a quite alarming truth: there are currently ten separate ways people can reach me via that one device (LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, Skype, Instagram, Viber, Whatsapp, text message, email and ordinary phone, in case you’re interested) – terrifying, no?

No wonder we feel so overwhelmed – at any minute, one of those little icons could ping with an alert and somebody’s asking for a tiny, if not fleeting, moment of my attention. Hundreds of these a day and if you’re already feeling a bit rubbish, you start to feel drained – fast.

I say text anyone who might need to reach you in an emergency and leave one route, like a landline, open for absolute crises. Then put your phone in aeroplane mode and keep it that way until you feel you can cope again.

Have a safe place

I have several safe places. They’re usually small, enclosed, cosy areas within my own house. Everyone’s different, but most people know what makes them tick. For me, small, softly furnished spaces help me to relax, for some people it’s jogging, for others it’s going for a long drive. Whatever your safe place, find it and make sure you spend some time there when it feels like the world is imposing too much on you.

Cut back on non-essentials

I’m not advocating cutting yourself off from your friends, but sometimes the feeling of being overwhelmed can be a result of overcommitting. Do you really need to have that coffee with a stranger right now? Do you have to go to that party?

Go through your commitments for the next month and start crossing off everything that you’ve agreed to attend out of obligation, rather than desire. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes when you don’t feel tied into something you don’t really want to do.

Make a gratitude list

Sometimes, feeling overwhelmed can come from a disproportionate focus on the negatives in life. When I start to feel like the bad things are outweighing the good, I sit down and make a list of things that I’m lucky to have. They don’t have to be big things, sometimes I’m just really grateful for the roof over my head, or the fact that I always have enough to eat. Once you really strip back and look at what you do have, life feels a lot simpler and everything other than the basics starts to feel like a bonus.

Seek help

It will pass – it always passes. But if you have been feeling overwhelmed for a while and it’s starting to take over your life, then seek help. There’s no shame in fine-tuning your own wellbeing, visiting a counsellor or someone who can help you put coping methods into place that work for you.

Remember, your health and wellbeing comes first, no matter what. If you’re struggling, please do contact a professional or mental health organisation who can help you get back on your feet.

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How to be creative /2014/08/how-to-be-creative/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-be-creative /2014/08/how-to-be-creative/#comments Wed, 13 Aug 2014 07:34:47 +0000 /?p=5016

How many times have I heard someone say that they’re just not creative and never will be? Too many times – and I say that’s rubbish. Sure, some people are more naturally predisposed to creativity than others – some things come more naturally while others struggle to catch on.

However – I’m a firm believer that creativity can be learned, fostered and that creativity breeds more creativity. More importantly, creativity doesn’t have to look a certain way or manifest itself in certain hobbies or interests. Learning to think creatively can help you to get ahead in a totally non creative industry, it can teach you to see solutions where other people see brick walls – cultivating your creativity can change your life. So where and how do you get started?

A creative life is a happy life!

Take up a typically creative hobby

Even if all you’ve ever drawn is stick men, challenge yourself and go to a drawing class. Always wanted to learn an instrument? Now’s your chance. Want to learn how to take beautiful pictures? Go on a course. If you want to learn to think creatively, you have to start by doing creative things. For example, the photography courses I’ve attended have taught me to see beauty in things that other people might walk past without noticing. The musical instruments I play teach me to see unexpected places a melody might go, or how to pick up and jam without having to learn.

If at first you don’t succeed…

Don’t give up on your hobby if you’re not immediately amazing at it. Stick at it and do a little of it every day, even if it’s frustrating at first. You’ll be amazed how quickly your thought process starts to change and develop. Challenging yourself can be really difficult at first, but you won’t regret it. Remember, everyone has to start somewhere.

It takes time to blossom

Compare yourself – to yourself!

Want to feel really great about yourself? Record your progress and make monthly comparisons – you’ll find you’ve come on leaps and bounds month to month – and it’s much better than comparing yourself to others who may have way more experience or time than you. You will progress at your own pace, so keep looking back and realising just how far you’ve come.

Keep a journal

Keeping a journal is a great way to track how you feel day to day. Read back every few months or so and see how your new creative thinking has affected your whole life. Have you started to look at things in a more positive way? Have you started to think of outside-the-box solutions to your everyday problems? You’ll be amazed how much being creative can change your life.

Find other beginners

Get to know people on your course. Or if you’re teaching yourself or having private lessons, find a club or forum that you can participate in. Sharing your new passion is a great way to keep up the excitement and momentum around it, and you may learn things from other beginners that a more experienced teacher might have overlooked. If nothing else, you’ll make some fabulous new friends.

Share the results

If you’ve taken up baking, start taking your sweet treats into work. If it’s photography, start showcasing your work or taking lovely pictures for people and giving them as gifts. Started something musical? Push the boat out and try out at an open mic night. Forcing yourself to put yourself out there gives you a goal to work towards and encourages you to take your hobby up a level, plus results = rewards!

A new, creative mindset awaits you – you just have to be brave enough to take the first step and stick with it. I promise you won’t regret it. 

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Working from home can be a great gift: you can work in your PJs (or your underpants, whatever floats your boat) your commute is a dream and you can have an afternoon cranky nap. Amazing.

However, it’s really easy to fall into a pattern of working weird hours – and then working all hours. Your friends could be mainly comprised of industry friends. Your work laptop and work phone are the same as your private tech. It can be really hard, then, to switch off when the boundaries between your work and private life become blurred. So how do you work from home and keep your personal life sacred?

Get two sets of tech

If you can afford it, do it. Get a work phone and a personal phone, same with your computer. For example, I try to use my desktop for work and my laptop for my own stuff. I know this isn’t realistic for everyone, but it’s worth the investment. Once your work computer is off, it stays off, just like you’re leaving an office – the same goes for your work phone. If you’re in an industry where it’s unlikely that there will be an emergency, become difficult to contact out of hours.

Set clear boundaries

With yourself and with others. Give yourself working hours and stop after that. OK, so sometimes you might end up working until the small hours. When that happens, don’t tell anyone. Don’t put it on social media, don’t give people the message that you work 24/7, or they will think you’re fair game 24/7. Don’t accept business messages via Facebook, ask people to email you instead, and always arrange to talk to people within normal business hours, no matter how excited you are (this is something I’m really bad at). Respond to any emails or texts after 9am on weekdays, even if they were sent earlier.

Carry a notebook

Sometimes, I get ideas at weird hours. That doesn’t mean I need to get up and start working on them right away. I jot them down and go back to sleep, knowing my ideas are safe.

Get out once a day

I love my house. If it were up to me, I’d never leave – home is the safest, cosiest place after all. However, it’s good for my health and my frame of mind to leave the house at least once every day, just to get a glimpse of the outside world and some fresh air.

Try to keep your office space separate

Even if it’s just one small corner of one room set up as a desk, try to keep your office space separate to your living space. That way you won’t find yourself still working from sofa in the early hours.

It’s not always the case that long hours pay off

Hard work pays off, but forcing yourself to sit at a desk day and night in order to “put in the hours” does not. When it comes to your hours, learn your patterns and work when you’re most productive. Don’t work when you think you SHOULD be working, don’t work into the night if you’re a morning person and do what’s best for you – that’s the whole point of being self employed, isn’t it?

Do you work from home? Do you find it difficult to find a work-life balance? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment box!

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