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title: "No bitching month for charity – my initial observations"
url: https://darlinglovelylife.com/2014/04/no-bitching-month-for-charity-my-initial-observations/
description: "Hola – happy Easter weekend everyone! Just checking in a few days into my no-bitching month with the following observations! Read more about what I’m doing here and."
published: 2014-04-19
updated: 2014-04-19
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# No bitching month for charity – my initial observations

Published 2014-04-19

[Love & life](https://darlinglovelylife.com/category/love-and-life/)

19 April 2014 · by Sara - Darling Lovely Life editor · filed under [Darling Lovely Life](https://darlinglovelylife.com/archives/)

Hola – happy Easter weekend everyone! Just checking in a few days into my no-bitching month with the following observations! Read [more about what I’m doing here](https://darlinglovelylife.com/2014/04/my-one-month-no-bitching-challenge-for-charity/) and visit my [JustGiving page here](http://www.justgiving.com/no-bitching-for-a-month) to sponsor me – it’s for a really wonderful cause.

So what have I learned in my first few days of bitching?

*This one’s for my dad*

## You don’t need to say everything you think

One of my great weaknesses in life is that I’m not a particularly proficient self editor. I tend to say the first thing that comes into my brain, and while that can be amusing at times it can also dig me into holes. I guess I’ve always prided myself on my honesty, but having integrity doesn’t mean you can’t hold some things back. Editing everything before I say it, 24 hours a day, is already teaching me a vital life skill.

## Slip ups have been throwaway comments rather than long bitching sessions

The few times I’ve slipped up and put a pound in the bitch jar, it’s been because I made some stupid throwaway comment that flew out of my mouth before I had time to think about it. So far, I’ve managed to hold back on any irritations with others or just tell them directly that I’m feeling annoyed.

*You won’t BELIEVE what that other ostrich just said to me*

## I notice when I’m being negative in general

This is the big one – every time I’m negative about ANYTHING (not other people, not behind their backs, not gossiping) I’ve had to stop and check whether or not I just bitched.

The first few times that happened I wondered if it was because bitching is a hard thing to define, but then I realised that isn’t it at all. It’s because (and this blew my tiny mind) *it creates the same physical feeling in my body.*

You know that uncomfortable feeling after a proper bitching session, when you feel like you’ve swallowed poison? No? That’s because you probably weren’t even aware of it. The second I had to be aware of when I was bitching, I also had to make myself aware of how bitching feels physically – it’s the same feeling when I’m negative – like poison. I’m not saying I’m going to go around skipping on rainbows and handing out free candy (although that sounds fun) but it’s a good thing to be aware of.

**So that’s how my no-bitching month is going so far. If you think that editing your words 24 hours a day for a whole month sounds difficult and you’d like to support the Sam Beare Hospice in Weybridge, take a couple of mins and [visit my JustGiving page](http://www.justgiving.com/no-bitching-for-a-month) to find out more!**

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