Comments on: Taking back my body – my battle with PCOS

By: Clareygib

Thu, 27 Mar 2014 19:31:00 +0000

I’ve recently been diagnosed with PCOS but known I’ve had it for years and felt like no body was listening to me! I can’t go out of the house without wearing make up due to the fear of someone saying something about my darker bits! The baby thing is my struggle at the moment but everyday it never gets any easier! Well done with your blog! ]]>

By: Sara - Darling Lovely Life editor

Mon, 24 Mar 2014 08:15:09 +0000

Thank you so much for the lovely comment, Andrea. So great that you’re so positive about this too. xxxxx ]]>

By: Andrea

Sat, 22 Mar 2014 12:55:06 +0000

Wow, what a beautiful blog post! First of all: We all are beautifully imperfect in our own unique ways – and don’t ask me how long it took me to accept this :-)
I am suffering from and fighting against PCOS myself. Yep, it sucks, big time! At the same time this condition has changed my life in many (positive) ways… There is hope! :-)
Thanks again for writing this great post! ]]>

By: Anon

Tue, 04 Mar 2014 21:20:15 +0000

Thank you for writing about pocs.
Sometimes it is like no one else has it and I’m weird because it effects me and I let it. I’m determined to live a better life this year and love being me.
I concentrate on my hair and nails, if I like what they are up to I know I’ll feel good! Silly really! ]]>

By: Sara - Darling Lovely Life editor

Tue, 04 Mar 2014 08:38:49 +0000

It’s a culmination of things I think but good point, we do it to each other. John and I had a male friend over yesterday and I was discussing my blog post with him. He looked at me, genuinely confused, and said “I just don’t notice things like body hair or how much make up women are wearing.”

And it’s true, we’re so used to the oppression that we’ve started to do it to ourselves and each other. Maybe it really is time to put down the gossip magazines and stop examining our own bodies with a microscope.

And ears are a good a feature as any to love – massive hugs xxxxx

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By: anon

Tue, 04 Mar 2014 08:32:31 +0000

So, don’t get me started on the waxing industry. Really. I cannot fathom that women supposedly ‘need’ to be largely hairless now, glad i am not dating as i think fashions have changed somewhat on past decade (in fact i know they have! Went for bikini wax pre holiday and they were horrified i didn’t want it ‘all off’. Jeepers, i have two daughters, what would that be telling them?).

anyhow, i have struggled my life with my weight and crippling lack of self confidence. People who first meet me think i am an extrovert… Not so. But i read something in a chick lit book a while ago, and it helped. I paraphrase but it went something like: remember that no one in the room is looking at you, they are too busy worrying that you are looking at them.

i worry about societies expectation of women to be all things at once, oh and thin and pretty too. We can’t be. But i have to say, the older i get, the more i realise that the pressure we feel is put on us by *other women*. Us. We do it to ourselves and our ‘sisters’.

i have a great friend who is slim, always immaculate. Turns out she hasn’t eaten a whole meal in 10 years, and not in an anorexic way, but in a ‘society says i must be thin’ way. She would rather be a size 8 than eat nice food.

i eat. I love to eat. I also exercise (yoga, what a middle class thing to say!). I am a healthy weight *just* after Xmas i always tip into a bmi of 25.5 so watch it a bit for spring.

body wise. Love my ears. Seriously, that’s it. And my waist, well the fact i have a waist whatever my weight.

time we all gave each other a break i think. Great post x

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By: Sara - Darling Lovely Life editor

Tue, 04 Mar 2014 08:28:21 +0000

Thank you so much for the lovely comment. I really love your attitude – our bodies aren’t things for other people’s pleasure they are also a map of our experiences and you have two wonderful kids to show for yours. xxxx ]]>

By: Sara - Darling Lovely Life editor

Tue, 04 Mar 2014 08:27:19 +0000

Oh lovely Andie, you do have the most beautiful eyes. I was on my Facebook and a picture of you came up, I had a friend next to me who literally gasped and said what incredibly beautiful eyes you have!!! I think we have to start realising that stick thin and pretty are not necessarily mutually exclusive! Love you xxxxxxx ]]>

By: Andie

Mon, 03 Mar 2014 19:00:20 +0000

I too have pcos and it is heart breaking when you get te diagnosis! I spent a year crying and hating my body! I try so hard to look thin and pretty and i always fail. The only part of me i ever liked was my eyes and even then i have to wear glasses. After a terrible year i went to thailand for a month. I decided to be who i really am and didnt care about how i looked! I had crazy curly hair, i danced like an idiot and what was the most special thing tht happened – a guy approached me, told me i had the most beautiful eyes he had ever seen and just ha to tell me before he disappeared into the night! We are all beautiful and thank you sara for sharing your struggles! You are amazing! Love you x ]]>

By: Anon

Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:25:52 +0000

The one thing that I used to cry and cry and cry over, was the awful wrinkly tummy I was left with after having my two children. I was riddled with stretch marks during both pregnancies thanks to my 9lb+ babies and after losing my baby weight both times I was left with a sack of saggy skin, which used to get me so down! Especially when friends and what seems like every other person springs back to their perfect flat stomach with not so much as a mark on it. These wrinkles and saggy skin have been the reason behind many of my tears, until one day my little boy asked me ‘what are those crinkles on your tummy mummy?’ I explained to him that he’d made these ‘crinkles’ because he’d grown so big in my tummy and from that day I’ve never cried over them again, because without these ‘crinkles’ (I think the fact he didn’t call them wrinkles or stretch marks also helped!) I wouldn’t have either of my gorgeous children and now, although I don’t think their attractive, I’m not ashamed of them! My babies made my crinkles!! x ]]>