R-E-S-P-E-C-T is an important thing! If you respect yourself, and others respect you, then you know that you’ve been one hundred per cent true to yourself, honest and that you have integrity. Respect isn’t earned by instilling fear (fear and respect are not the same things) nor telling everyone how great you are – it’s all about how you conduct yourself and how you relate to others. So here are five small ways to start earning the respect of your peers and, more importantly, yourself.
Stop feeling like you’re not good enough to soar
Stop making yourself inferior
If I had a pound for everyone I knew who engineered their behaviour around what they think other people will think of them, I would be very wealthy. There’s nothing wrong with being sensitive to the feelings of those around you; but if you find that you’re almost always putting everyone else’s needs first because you somehow think they’re more important than you, stop. No relationship, professional, personal nor romantic, can flourish when one person feels less than the other.
Stop making excuses
Your time is precious and you’ll find that a lot of people will try to make a lot of demands on it. That’s fine, but I know people who are perpetually busy and flustered. They just have to go and help out so and so person they’ve known all of five minutes, or they’ve committed to a social engagement they’re dreading. If you don’t feel like doing something, you don’t have to come up with a list of elaborate excuses, the fact that you don’t want to is reason enough.
You don’t need to put on a show to prove yourself
Believe it or not, I’m quite a shy person. Sometimes, in social settings, I overcompensate by performing. I know I can be funny and so I cling to that like it’s the only way people will find me interesting. Don’t feel the need to perform and let people see the real you. It can be really hard, but just starting with being aware of when it’s happening and not beating yourself up for it is a step in the right direction.
A true mark of someone who deserves respect is their ability to face difficult situations head on. Do you have to have an uncomfortable conversation with someone? Avoiding them won’t improve the situation. Do you need to get an unpleasant task over with? Just do it. The doers of the world tend to be the most respected people in our society.
The problem isn’t going to go away if you avoid it
Stop apologising for yourself
Have an opinion? Stand by it. Someone knocked into you? For goodness sakes, don’t say sorry! You don’t have to apologise just for existing, thinking and feeling! Everyone is entitled to their little place in this world, so why make yourself smaller to avoid getting in anyone’s way?
How do you think respect can be earned? Have you made any changes in your life lately and noticed a difference in the way people treat you? Leave us your comments!