Our Darling Lovely Maddy is back – not just back with a brand new post but back in the country after an exciting few months in India (how jealous could I be right now). While she was out there, Maddy had some fabulous thoughts on how to reclaim your power in a confusing digital world. Over to Maddy!
Maddy knows how to make Internet life into a delicious treat instead of a draining chore
I don’t know about you darling lovely readers, but I’m frankly bored up to the eyeballs by the excessive negativity on the Internet these days. “The incredibly low level of humanness” is how I heard one intelligent person put it. I mean come on, who’s in charge of our lives here, you or the Internet?
It’s time for you to realise that you, yes YOU are powerful, and that the Internet can be a tool to celebrate that instead of taking it from you.
So how can you use your time on the Internet to your benefit? Instead of mindlessly clicking, I’ve found a way to take back some of my power online and I wanted to share my tips for how to do this with you darling lovely readers! You are completely capable of testing out the following for yourselves:
You don’t have to share every thought on the Internet – sometimes it’s better to keep a lid on it
Keep your thoughts to yourself
Here’s an empowering thought: you don’t have to comment on everything on Facebook. Yes, really. Completely. You too can restrain from verbally vomiting. We’re so used to sharing our opinions on things and then find ourselves drawn into counter-productive and emotionally exhausting debates and discussions. It’s OK to see something and not say a word!
Think before you shoot back
We’ve come to expect instant responses to our emails, but what would it be like to really consider your response to any and all emails currently sitting in your inbox? I would love to say that I live up to my commitment to respond to emails within 24 hours, but it’s just not practical sometimes. I’m too busy considering! See point 1: commit to no verbal vomiting.
You too can be a splash of sparkle among the drab & grey!
Make your mark
Edit your email signature to reflect your passion. This has proved to have a very interesting response in my case (I often include ‘Be gentle with yourself’). As long as it’s not offensive then go ahead!
Be brave and publish your poetry, videos of you performing (if that’s your thing) on any social media outlet/email/blog system you care to maintain. It’s OK because it’s human and it’s a celebration of you!
Write a blog that only a few people read just for your own enjoyment and growth. Keep going, keep honing your skill. Only by doing it do you know what the hell you’re doing next time!
In fact, why not turn off comments on your blog/Facebook wall/channel because you know deep down what you have to contribute doesn’t need to be critiqued?
Don’t ignore causes
Don’t just delete the emails asking you to sign a petition for a cause that you are passionate about. A good friend recommended testing this out as she regularly signs email petitions, and writes to her MP. There are a lot of good causes out there, and our voices can only be heard if we speak out!
How much of your time are you dedicating to deleting things you’re not interested in?
Clear out the digital clutter
Set aside some time to click ‘unsubscribe’, ‘unfollow’ if you don’t think these emails/accounts add value to your life any more. (I personally recommend using a service like Unroll.me)
Have a social media blackout
Have a day, a week, a month or however long that you just don’t “do” social media. It’s really powerful to focus on face-to-face contact sometimes. So I’ve been told! This comes from my own husband, he of Candy Crush addiction and newspaper-link-sharing-on-social-media… ‘Close down your computer, boot up your energy and go outside. Admire the view, take it all in. Go for a walk. Spend the rest of the day out and about. And no, there’s no need to update Facebook to tell everyone that you’re doing this!’
Enjoy the great outdoors
So what would your life be like if you decided to treat the Internet not as something that diminishes you or what you have to contribute, but as something to help you, to support you in what you want to say and how you want to say it? Try it and let us know how you get on!