I’m the first to admit that I can be a bit of a worrier. I try not to sweat the small stuff, but I can totally understand how planning a wedding can magnify the smallest problems and make them seem like the end of the world.
After months of planning, creating, arguing (probably) and focusing on details, it’s easy to lose perspective, particularly on your wedding morning. Emotions are running high, as are nerves, and if something you’ve poured your heart into goes wrong, it’s all too easy to go into meltdown.
This post is to remind you that the most important part of your wedding day is marrying the person you love. Everything else is dressing – so how do you stay calm enough to really enjoy your big day?
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Go to bed early
Your pre-wedding prep starts the night before. Do whatever you need to do to get an early night, as you’ll be battling nerves and they’ll be pretty set on keeping you awake. Have a walk and a hot bath a few hours before bed, a nice mug of chamomile tea, some Rescue Night and even if you can’t sleep, try to shut your eyes and rest. The less tired you are, the less likely you are to lose your cool the next day.
Have your phone confiscated
The best thing I did on the morning of my wedding was hand over my mobile to my brother. Several guests pulled out at the last minute, something I’d been utterly dreading, and had those texts reached me directly I probably would have lost my serene, pre-wedding glow. As it happened, my brother was an excellent buffer and softened the blow of each no-show.
It also meant that no hysterical, last-minute phone calls reached me directly and things were delegated without me having to be involved.
Don’t do yourself an injury worrying about whether or not the flowers have arrived, pop on a movie you enjoy (no jilted at the altar movies, please) and watch it while you’re getting ready.
Surround yourself with the right people
You need to surround yourself with people who are also going to be calm. My mum and bridesmaids were really chilled on the day, the mood was festive, not frantic. Make sure you have people around you who you can rely on to keep your thoughts positive and cultivate excitement instead of panic.
Remember nobody else knows the plan
What if the wrong centrepieces show up? Or what if I get my vows wrong? What happens if something goes wrong? Well, unless it’s a real tragedy, I say don’t worry about the details. I know, I know, you’ve spent the last goodness-knows-how-long worrying about the details, but let them go. You’re the only one who knows what the original plan was and if something goes wrong, it’s really unlikely that anyone will notice.
At the end of the day, if you come home with a spouse, your wedding went perfectly. It’s even more likely to be the best day of your life if you’re calm, happy and ready to take it all in, so take some deep breaths, hand in your mobile and enjoy the day!