Five unexpected wedding party roles

Morning all. So we are still busy bees behind the scenes here gathering content for the new look blog and working with fabulous designer, Lucy Ledger Designs, who is working on a very pretty new site for you all. It’s so exciting I can’t even talk about it for fear of squealing like a toddler on a sugar high.

But in the meantime we’re still bringing you some cracking wedding tips and inspiration. Today we’re talking about the unsung wedding heroes – so unsung, perhaps, that these roles might be entirely forgotten about until the big day. Here are some roles you might want to give people in advance to make sure you’re not stuck when you need help the most…

Images scrapbooked with kind permission from original photography by Satureyes 

Five unexpected wedding party roles

Toilet helper

As you can probably tell, my dress was pretty huge. Not to gross you out, but I’m going to put aside my shame and talk about the practicalities of going to the bathroom in a dress that big. If you have a fun, flirty fifties frock, then ignore the following advice, you can wee alone like an adult. But if you’ve gone for something a little more extravagant, I’m telling you, it can be a two-person job.

My advice would be to nominate someone already in your wedding party to help you when you go to the bathroom if you’re worried about any mortifying train dippage (that’s a word…). Also, choose someone you know well enough and are comfortable enough with not to be embarrassed in front of – your mum, a bridesmaid, a sister…

I chose one of my two maids of honour, Carys, for the accolade. Sorry, Carys. Having known her for twenty five years now (and for those who don’t know me, that’s all my life) she’s seen me in just about every sticky situation imaginable. It sounds strange but the hilarity of the two of us trying to maneuver me onto the toilet and being interrupted by a very startled groomsman who overheard the whole thing, was probably one of the highlights of my day, mortifying as it was.

A tip, don’t choose someone who doesn’t already have a role – nobody wants their only wedding day job to be “toilet helper”.

Carys is like my big sister, a role she totally relished on the day (Image is an instagram pic by my other wonderful maid of honour, Rhiannon)

Crowds disperser

It’s not fun to arrive at the venue only to find a large crowd waiting where you need to scuttle through before you make your big entrance. I know that ushers are supposed to know all these things, but they’re not psychic.

Make sure you designate one (trustworthy) person to liaise with as you approach the venue so that your big entrance isn’t spoiled by people craning their necks for a first look.

Choose someone who’s likeable but firm for this role. You don’t want your friends and family feeling pushed around, but you also want someone with polite authority and gravitas so that people listen to them.

Cake dispenser

I have yet to go to a wedding (my own included) where someone remembered to cut and hand out the cake. I think it might be because the cake falls outside of the catering remit, is often cut a bit later in the evening after the meal is finished and most people don’t think of it.

Either have a stash of plates and someone in your wedding party responsible for equally distributing the cake (make sure they think it through so that everyone gets a piece) or, if you can, have your caterers cut it up and serve it immediately after you make the first cut.

Whoever you choose, make sure someone has that responsibility as it seems so obvious, it’s easily forgotten. And for that added special touch, you can serve tea at the same time or milk for kids (or big kids) to go with the cake.

This beautiful cake from Genuine Cakes made a wonderful decorative piece, and an even better breakfast for friends and family the next morning. Image © Satureyes 

Unwanted interaction buffer

This may seem incredibly rude, but have a close friend on hand to act as a buffer if things get a bit too much. A wedding can be very overwhelming and there are always the well-intentioned people you don’t know so well but invited out of duty who tend  to monopolise your time. It’s hard enough to get around the whole room, spend time with your family and see your new spouse without being stuck in a conversation that’s going on way too long for your liking.

Have a friend you can give a very subtle signal to who can come and rescue you if it looks like you’re trying to politely extricate yourself so that you can move on and say hello to everyone you need to see.

Guest book attendant

Go on, leave a guest book at an event and see how many people write in it of their own accord. Not many, judging from our experience, and ours was right next to a photo booth, we made it all very easy.

However you choose to do your guest book, whether you make video messages or use good old ink and paper, give someone the responsibility of going from guest to guest and giving them their moment to sign it. Most people really do mean to get round to it but with alcohol flowing and the festivities in full swing, it’s easy for it to slip their minds.

Which unusual roles do you plan to have at your wedding? If you’re married, did you forget something obvious because nobody was in charge? We’d love to hear from you! 

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