Wedding planning SOS: accommodating elderly guests

Happy Monday everyone! I’ve woken up full of beans and ready for a very, very, very, very, very exciting  week ahead (seriously exciting!) Last week was a week of gorgeous multicultural real weddings, hair dilemmas, hot flower colour trends and big announcements. This week I have some more real wedding lushness, a post on how to include your kids in your wedding ceremony, more planning help, fabulous fashion and trends from my favourite companies and retro lushness in general!

Phew! So on with today’s post – today on the blog we’re talking about how to accommodate elderly wedding guests.

Making everyone comfortable – looking after elderly guests

When planning a wedding it’s so easy to get carried away with the party. After all, weddings are a celebration and, while you’re never too old to celebrate, a heaving party can be a bit much for some of your more seasoned guests. So today I’m doing a little post about things you might not have thought about to make sure the wedding is enjoyable for everyone!

Now, before I start I’d like to add a disclaimer that I don’t mean this post in an ageist way at all. I am well aware that many elderly people are more than capable, don’t need a fuss or any special treatment and would potentially be offended by the tone of this post (my Grandma is seriously fierce, in the Tyra Banks sense of the word). It isn’t meant to sound patronising, this is meant for people who do need that extra care and consideration. 

Create a separate “chill out” area. We’re doing so in the form of a styled vintage tea room. It will have sofas, cups of tea and coffee readily available and will be slightly away from the noise of the party. This is simply to make sure that anyone who needs it, whether elderly, very young, breastfeeding mothers, young children or just people who want a breather from the party, have somewhere relatively quiet to sit and regroup for a bit. It’s also somewhere for people to just go and chat who haven’t seen each other in a while!

Check wheelchair access and even ground. If your venue doesn’t have disabled access and you have guests in wheelchairs, see what you can do to work around or improve this. Are there alternative entrances to the venue? How many stairs are there? Can a ramp be fitted? Also for very elderly guests warn of any uneven ground at the venue and make sure someone is on hand to assist them if need be.

A few of my elderly relatives are hard of hearing. This means two things. The first is to be aware of hearing aids when choosing the volume at which your band and DJ will play, the second is to make sure they are seated further forward at the ceremony so that they don’t miss anything.

Don’t insist that everyone stay until the end of the party. It’s reasonable to expect your friends and younger relatives to stay, but not everyone is up for a really late night, so if a tired grandparent wants to head home earlier, don’t take it personally!

Make sure that they’re alright getting to and from the venue or back to their hotel room. If it’s a far walk, arrange someone to collect them and to drive them back at the end of the night.

Your wedding is a special day for your whole family – with a small amount of consideration you can make the world of difference to how much someone enjoys the celebrations! 

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