How to make friends with your wedding again

Happy Monday everyone! I hope you’re all having a great start to the week. I am, but I’ve also got a little confession to make. Despite being a professional wedding blogger, living, breathing and loving all things wedding, I’m starting to have a mini meltdown. I spent most of yesterday stomping around the house and cursing anything wedding related.

The thing is, wedding planning used to be fun. I was lost in a land of beautiful dresses and fabulous suppliers to choose from. The vintage wedding world was pretty much my oyster. But then I made all my fun choices. I ran out of things to pick, beautiful boutiques to visit, cakes to taste… and although I’m thrilled with all my choices, I have to acknowledge that the exciting part is temporarily over.

With four months to go I pretty much have everything covered – now it’s time for the nitty gritty. I need to start planning this wedding in detail. I’m talking logistics, timings, practicalities – everything I’m bad at. And worse yet, dealing with unhappy friends and family, fallings out, exhausting days flicking through the etiquette book.

So I’ve realised that if I want to be excited about my big day again, I need to fall back in love with the wedding! So here’s what I’m going to try – and I hope you find some top tips in here:

Make friends with your wedding

Delegate. Make a list of the seemingly endless laborious tasks and divide them between your family and wedding party. If everyone has one or two small tasks it will seriously take the weight off your shoulders.

Get perspective. I spent loads of today stressing out about colours and materials and jars and other things that are completely secondary to the commitment I’m making! Remember why you’re getting married and that the wedding is just the celebration!

Plan some more fun. Just because you have all your suppliers doesn’t mean you can’t have fun choosing your flowers, deciding on your hair, planning the party music… Not all the leftover tasks are dull so choose your favourites to focus on.

Make the most of it – if DIY projects are getting on top of you, invite friends over for a crafting weekend. Sit in front of the TV and form a production line – it will be a fun bonding experience and an excuse to watch wedding movies all day!

Talk to other couples who are getting married or have recently been married. They’ll know what you’re going through and will be able to offer advice and support.

Take a break. Unless you do what I do for a living, you don’t need to be thinking about weddings all day long. Make sure you take some time out every day from wedding planning or you’ll quickly start to get frustrated with it all.

Look forward to the day itself. Yes, it will take hard work to get there, but every time you get frustrated, imagine yourself walking down that aisle and nothing else will matter.

Don’t forget weddings are all about the love! Image © Modern Vintage Weddings

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